Blog Archives

Should You Remain Friends With An Ex?

Given the success of my last music-inspired post, I had to do another one. This link http://bossip.com/463076/adele-forgives-ex-boyfriend-who-inspired-album-21-90210/ popped up on my twitter timeline the other day, and it got me thinking about how people deal with their exes. I’m pretty sure the majority of us could only wish to have an outcome such as Adele’s after a breakup. The 2-time grammy winner and dubbed ‘queen of pain’ has had tremendous success from her 2nd album, ‘21′: 10 million copies, #1 in 18 countries at one point. Most people know that it was a devastating breakup that served as inspiration for her award-winning album; with songs such as ‘Someone Like You’ and ‘Rolling in the Deep‘, it is no wonder Adele has soared to the top of the charts. Not only is her voice timeless, but she has been able to convey such raw emotion in her songs about love and heartache.

Regarding her ex, Adele said recently in an interview, “We’re becoming friends again. It’s alright, I know what I’m doing. Enough time has gone by… He changed my life, I can’t deny that. The album helped me get over splitting up with [him]. It helped me forgive and I hope that he has forgiven himself.”

I’m wondering what you all think about it? When should you let an ex go for good and when should you remain friends? I thought it was interesting that bossip.com stated in their article: ” [with] 10 million album sold… why not forgive him?” To me, forgiveness and getting over a relationship is a very different thing than friendship, especially if your breakup wasn’t mutual (and in her case also pretty devastating). Friendship takes a lot more strength (and generally more time). In my experience, I don’t see very many people staying friends with their exes- and let me be clear here, I’m assuming friendship to be more than just the sporadic ‘hey, how’s it going, I hope you’re well’. However, if you are able to truly get over the person and remain friends, more power to you. Usually the true test comes when the other person moves on, how do you feel then?

So let me know, do you remain friends with your exes? Does it depend on whether the breakup was mutual or not? Or whether you hang in the same circles? Take our poll below.

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 160 other followers